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6 common demotivators and how to tackle them

Motivation is the driving force that enables us to do the things that we want to do. Now if motivation is such a useful tool, then why do we sometimes lack motivation and why are there people who totally lack motivation? What are the most pervasive demotivators of humanity?

In this article I've mentioned, rather sequentially, the most common demotivators:

1) No goals

If you got no goals at all, then what do you need motivation for? The least motivated people in the world are those who hardly have any goals. Weirder even are those whose goal is motivation itself! They just want to get motivated, feel good, Yeah, but what for? They don’t have a clue. (The purpose of motivation)

Such people are at a greater risk of becoming self-help addicts.

2) Lack of knowledge

Okay so you have goals but still, you find that you aren't motivated enough to pursue them. The reason can be not knowing what path you should follow in order to accomplish them.

This is why gaining enough knowledge is important because if you don’t know what to do then you won’t be able to figure out the direction in which to utilize your motivational energy. So your motivation will fade away.


3) Weak desire

What if you have goals and you also know what to do in order to accomplish them but still motivation eludes you? In this case, your desire may not be strong enough.

We don’t usually act when a certain emotion is triggered in us. We act when we are charged with that emotion- when our emotions reach a certain threshold and become unbearable.  Without a burning desire, there is no motivation.

Let’s say you managed to set clear goals, gained knowledge as to how you can reach them and are now burning with desire; still, there are some factors that can come into play and demotivate you.

Here they are…

4) Lack of faith

This is by far the most common demotivator. By lack of faith, I mean lack of faith in your abilities and in the things that you're currently doing to reach your goals.

This lack of faith can be induced from the outside e.g. getting rejected or may be caused due to your own intrinsic self-doubt or low self-confidence. Faith is important because if you don’t believe in what you're doing then your mind will find it absolutely useless to motivate you.

5) Fear of failure

No one likes to fail. It makes you look bad, right? Yet success rarely happens without failure. It won’t be an exaggeration to say that failure is an essential part of success.

Some people lack the motivation to chase their goals solely because they're afraid they might fail and look stupid. That is embarrassing. So their mind protects them from this embarrassment by not motivating them at all!

6) Loss of hope

What if you tried many times and failed many times? You can’t go on doing that forever. At some point, you may start losing hope and you may start to believe that you're going nowhere.

That’s when motivation will you leave you completely and you might start to feel helpless. The only way you can get over this helplessness and become motivated again is to bring back the hope of success. 


The most important element of motivation is faith. If I gave you a method to accomplish one of your goals with a 100% guarantee that it’ll work, what will your level of motivation be? Of course, you’d jump into action right away. If you can develop that kind of faith, motivation won't ever leave you.

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