The surgery went on smoothly and Max was able to give Cindy just the kind of nose shape she wanted.
When the surgery was over, Max was excited to show her the mirror- he felt like Michelangelo. But as soon as Cindy saw her face in the mirror, she didn’t react as Max had expected, wore a disappointed expression on her face and said…
“I look just the same as before- you didn’t do a thing.”
Max did everything he could to prove to her that the surgery was successful, he showed her ‘before’ and ‘after’ photos but to no avail. Cindy still thought her nose looked big.
Negative self-image is often mental, not physical
In other words, he doesn’t see the reality of his looks, but only a distorted version of it. He’s not just irrationally complaining about his looks, his eyes are lying to him.
What’s fascinating is that even though the dog stopped being there to welcome me from the fourth day onward, whenever I entered that street at the same time in the evening, my mind created the image of the dog for a brief moment in the same position as I had seen it before. Only a careful look told me that there was none.
This happened for a few days and ended when my mind was ‘fully convinced’ that there wasn’t any dog there.
Our mind does what it can to protect us from danger, even if it means creating false images, just so we can take action beforehand to avoid any possible danger.
These kinds of distortions not only happen with external objects like dogs or ropes but also with our own looks.
Have you noticed that you look a bit different each time you look in the mirror throughout the day?
In the mornings, when you feel fresh, you look fresh and attractive. In the evenings, when you’re exhausted and stressed out, you tend to look dull, ugly and unattractive.
Many people come home from work, school or college and look at the mirror, thinking, “Is that how I looked throughout the day?”
On the contrary, when you’re down, feel defeated or depressed, you’ll look at an ugly face in the mirror. It’s nothing but your mind playing games with you.
When you look in the mirror, you’ll only focus on those body parts or facial features that you believe are ‘defective’ and they’ll appear more defective than they actually are.
At the same time, you’ll forget about some good features that you may have. Your conviction of having a poor self-image will become stronger and stronger every day unless you do something to let go of your false mental self-image.