|Fear of public speaking is a common fear among shy people and the underlying cause is almost always a fear of rejection.|
Our mind develops a behavior only when it finds that it is useful for achieving some kind of an important goal. We may or may not be conscious of that goal. So, even if you logically consider a behavior such as shyness unwanted, your subconscious mind will have its own, apparently illogical reason for developing it.
At the root of shyness is fear, a fear that people will get to know your ‘flaws’. Shyness motivates you to avoid social interactions so that your ‘flaws’ remain hidden. When you feel shy, you find yourself unable to interact with others and this negative experience only reinforces your belief that you are better off staying aloof from others. Therefore, the belief that ‘there’s something wrong with you’ gets reinforced and you get trapped in vicious self-reinforcing cycle.
Your subconscious mind thinks, “Success! I’ve helped you hide your flaws from others.”
When you’re in a situation where you know that everyone loves and accepts you (in your home for example), you’re very unlikely to feel shy. The degree to which you feel shy in any given situation depends on how comfortable you are in the situation and that in turn will depend on how you think others perceive you.
So all you got to do is to fix your own perception of how others perceive you and prove to your subconscious mind that you aren’t actually as negatively perceived by people as you may have imagined. Also, you’ll need to drop the belief that one can be perfect, without any flaws. So what if you have flaws. Don’t they have their own flaws too? We’re all imperfect in our own ways.
Like I said before, behind shyness there is always some kind of fear and all fears grow when they are avoided. Prove to yourself that the fear that was responsible for your shyness was irrational and then your mind will drop your shyness like a heavy load.
The important thing to remember is to always be on the lookout for situations that can trigger your shyness and face those situations again and again till you prove to your mind that there’s nothing to hide and your shyness ends.