PsychMechanics

People often say that we should not judge a book by its cover but unfortunately, that’s what the human mind is designed to do. The human mind tends to make as many decisions as it can based on minimal information. This happens in almost all human interactions including a job interview.

Most people know the basics of weight loss- that it’s all a game of energy. In order to lose weight, you have to burn more energy than you consume. You do that by getting more exercise and eating less food, avoiding foods with high caloric content. Yet, most people struggle with losing weight. Some even say it’s the hardest thing to do. Why is that?

Joe was a brilliant actor who had been nominated for the best actor award in an award ceremony. He had worked hard and his movie had done very well. When the announcer announced that he was the winner, Joe felt a cocktail of emotions- he was joyous, inexplicably sad, relieved and excited all at the same time.

“I think about you all the time.”

“I want to be with you all the time.”

“I like talking to you all the time.”

Many motivational speakers and self-help gurus lambast the fear of failure as if it’s some kind of a curse on humanity. Hardly anyone ever points out why we have this fear in the first place and, dare I say, the potential benefits of having this fear. 

Have you ever caught yourself wondering if the people you call friends are really your friends? Have you ever complained, “He only talks to me when he needs me” or “I only exist when you need something”?