A trauma bond gets formed in abusive relationships. An abusive relationship is one where there’s a major power imbalance between the partners. The abusive partner exercises power control over the other partner- the victim of abuse. In a healthy relationship, the two partners have more or less equal power distribution. A trauma bond gets formed …
Hatred motivates us to avoid pain. When we experience hatred, we distance ourselves from what causes us pain. So, if you hate talking to people, then ‘talking to people’ is a source of pain for you. Note that “I hate talking to people” is not necessarily the same as “I hate people”. You may be …
When things go wrong in your life, do you find yourself thinking: “Everything is my fault.”“I always mess everything up.” If you do, chances are you’re over-blaming yourself. Over-blaming or taking more than your fair share of responsibility for things can be just as bad as under-blaming. Things go wrong every once in a while …
As much as well-intentioned people try to create an equal society, it simply cannot happen. People organize themselves into status hierarchies wherever they are. Some people are more valuable and, therefore, higher in status than others. What determines who is valuable/high status and who isn’t? You and I don’t make these rules. It’s not up …
Technology has revolutionized how people communicate. We take for granted the fact that we can instantly drop a message to anyone anywhere in the world. And they can reply to it in an instant as well. People used to travel miles and miles to deliver messages, sometimes dying on the way. Those days are gone. …
Everyone likes to hear those three magical words. They make you feel special, wanted, important, and loved. But is there a thing as saying ‘I love you’ too much? What happens when you say ‘I love you’ too much in a relationship? People often say ‘I love you’ in a relationship when they feel and …
Everywhere you look, people seem to be having trouble with their relationships. What’s going on?Why are relationships so full of problems and conflicts?Why are relationships so hard for people? There are challenges in relationships at every stage, from courtship to parenting. For a relationship to thrive, both partners must navigate these challenges successfully. This article …
Why do we stare? Humans are, by nature, curious creatures. We like to look at novel things. Anything in our environment that is out of the ordinary is eye-catching. This is why people like going to cinemas and circuses- to see strange and unusual stuff. “Trust me. The movie is one of a kind. You …
Humans are wired to give and receive affection. It’s how we bond as a social species. Affectionate behavior makes the recipient of that behavior feel seen, validated, wanted, and loved. Physical affection is a major component of affectionate behavior. Although, one can also give affection verbally in the form of praise, appreciation, confessing feelings, etc. …
How does someone come to a point where they want to give up in life?Why do some people seem like they’ve already given up on life? We all have goals and dreams. Many of these goals, like being in a good relationship, are genetically programmed into us. So for the most part, we don’t even …