When you just don’t care anymore

Why do we stop caring? The answer to that question lies in the understanding of why we care. When we care about something, we give our attention, energy, time, and interest to it. Why? To get something in return.  After all, attention, energy, time, and interest are all precious resources. We don’t want to squander …

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Why do I feel like a burden?

Humans are social species who have reciprocity baked into their psyche. Most people want to contribute to their society because doing so raises them in the eyes of others, thereby raising their self-esteem. A society in which members contribute to each other survives and thrives, benefitting each member. It increases the cohesiveness of the group. …

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Why do I instinctively dislike someone?

It makes sense to dislike someone when they’ve done something wrong to you. But why would you dislike someone who hasn’t wronged you in any way? You know you have no reason to hate them, but still do. What’s going on? The first thing to know about this phenomenon is that there’s no such thing …

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The psychology of interrupting explained

At first glance, the psychology behind interrupting seems simple: A speaker is saying something and is cut off by someone else who goes on to express their own thing, leaving the former embittered. But there’s much more to interruptions than that. To begin, let’s talk about what constitutes an interruption. An interruption in conversation occurs …

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If healing is not linear, what is it?

Emotional healing is anything but a linear process. Think of a linear process as a step-by-step process like climbing stairs. Every single step you take moves you closer to your goal of healing in a linear fashion. It’d be great if healing worked that way, but it doesn’t. Instead, healing is more of a ‘two …

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What causes low emotional intelligence?

Emotional Intelligence or Emotional Quotient (EQ) is the ability to identify, understand, and manage emotions. People with high Emotional Intelligence: have a high level of self-awareness can understand their moods and emotions can regulate their emotions can empathize with others can comfort others can influence people have excellent social skills In contrast, people with low …

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Do exes come back? What do the stats say?

Relationships are an enormous time and energy investment. It’s easy to have a crush on someone, but if you want a relationship with them, numerous factors come into play. It becomes an important decision and you have to weigh many factors. When a relationship ends, it’s a huge loss, especially if the relationship was good. …

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Why hitting rock bottom can be good for you

Hitting rock bottom is one of the most unpleasant experiences in life. When you’re at the lowest point in your life, you get bombarded by all sorts of unpleasant emotions- fear, insecurity, doubt, frustration, hopelessness, and depression. Common reasons people hit rock bottom are: Losing a job/business Failing in school/college Going through a breakup/divorce Losing …

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Why rebound relationships fail (Or do they?)

A rebound relationship is a relationship that a person enters into soon after the end of a serious, prior relationship. The word ‘rebound’ conjures up scenes of an object (such as a rubber ball) bouncing off quickly from wall to wall. Similarly, a person who enters a rebound relationship- the rebounder- gives the impression that …

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