In this post, I’ll reveal two main causes of bad moods that both revolve around one very important fact…
This external information can be anything- a place you visit, a person you see, a word that you hear or a status update you come across in the news feed of your social media profile. These bits of information can act as triggers that activate certain thinking patterns in your mind that lead to an unresolved issue or an emotional wound.
Avoiding bad moods is all about avoiding these thinking patterns that end up making you feel bad. You can do this in two ways- either by avoiding the external triggers that have the potential of giving you bad moods or by changing your life situation so that your thinking patterns change automatically and don’t lead you to experience bad moods.
1) Unresolved issues
Since we are in a constant state of receiving info from the environment, the more unresolved issues we have the more likely it is that something will remind us of one of them and we’ll end up not being in a good mood.
Consider these examples…
2) Emotional wounds
These wounds can keep bothering us for our entire life if we don’t acknowledge them and take steps to heal them. The more emotional wounds we have the bigger the chance that some external event can touch one of these wounds and give us a bad mood attack.
3) Self-deception and bad moods
Bad moods can also be avoided by using self-deception, a classic human ego defense mechanism. When we’re unable to solve a problem or attain a goal, we’re likely to claim that the ‘grapes are sour’.
For instance, if a person has financial issues then instead of taking action to resolve these issues he may abandon them completely and become ‘spiritual’. By turning to spirituality, he creates a bubble around himself where he doesn’t have to care about his problems.
Unresolved issues cannot be buried in the subconscious for long. Sooner or later they rear their ugly head into our consciousness and the defense mechanism that we so meticulously construct often falls apart.
Similarly, many obese people who’re unable to lose weight give up and claim that they’ve finally loved and accepted themselves as they are. This may help them forget about their unresolved issue for a while but as soon as they come across a slim, attractive person, their defense mechanisms will crumble.
While I’m not so sure if you can really do the former (unless you live in a cave) but doing the latter is a sure-fire way to avoid not being in a good mood.
Self-deception may work for a while but in the long run, it’ll only end up making you feel worse.
Hanan Parvez (M.B.A., M.A. Psychology) has written 300+ articles at www.psychmechanics.com, a blog with over 3 million views and 100k monthly visitors. His work has been featured on Forbes, Business Insider, Reader’s Digest, and Entrepreneur.