‘Am I too clingy?’ Quiz

A healthy relationship is one where partners can be together without losing themselves. They can spend quality time with each other and also find time for themselves. A healthy relationship is one where both partners add to each other’s happiness.

The key feature of healthy relationships is interdependence. Interdependence is depending on each other. The key feature of unhealthy relationships is codependence, which is depending on each other too much- depending on each other for the things you should be depending on yourself.

If you cling to your partner too much, you suffocate them and exhaust them mentally. You interfere with their being themselves. So, they ask you to give them space.

Some degree of clinginess is natural for a new relationship where partners are trying to get to know each other. If clinginess persists six months into a relationship, we got a problem.

Taking the ‘Am I too clingy?’ quiz

This quiz is designed for those who’ve been in a relationship for a while (3-6 months). If your relationship is fairly new, I suggest you come back later to this quiz for accurate results.

The test consists of 13 items on a 5-point scale ranging from Strongly agree to Strongly disagree. It’s completely anonymous, and we don’t save the results in our database.

Am I too clingy? Quiz

1. I spend most of my time with my partner and very little time with myself.
2. Every day, I call/text my partner several times.
3. My life revolves around my partner.
4. I derive almost all my happiness from my partner.
5. I check my partner's phone/computer every time I get a chance.
6. I feel bad when my partner spends time with their friends.
7. I get jealous when my partner goes out without me.
8. When my partner goes out without me, I ask them probing questions.
9. I get extremely jealous when people of the opposite gender talk to my partner.
10. I constantly ask my partner if they love me.
11. When my partner pursues hobbies or interests that are unrelated to me, I feel intimidated.
12. I believe I moved our relationship forward too fast.
13. I feel like I've lost myself in the relationship.