A healthy relationship is one where partners can be together without losing themselves. They can spend quality time with each other and also find time for themselves. A healthy relationship is one where both partners add to each other’s happiness.
The key feature of healthy relationships is interdependence. Interdependence is depending on each other. The key feature of unhealthy relationships is codependence, which is depending on each other too much- depending on each other for the things you should be depending on yourself.
If you cling to your partner too much, you suffocate them and exhaust them mentally. You interfere with their being themselves. So, they ask you to give them space.
Some degree of clinginess is natural for a new relationship where partners are trying to get to know each other. If clinginess persists six months into a relationship, we got a problem.
Taking the ‘Am I too clingy?’ quiz
This quiz is designed for those who’ve been in a relationship for a while (3-6 months). If your relationship is fairly new, I suggest you come back later to this quiz for accurate results.
The test consists of 13 items on a 5-point scale ranging from Strongly agree to Strongly disagree. It’s completely anonymous, and we don’t save the results in our database.
Hi, I’m Hanan Parvez (MBA, MA Psychology), founder and author of PsychMechanics. I’ve published one book and authored 400+ articles on this blog (started in 2014) that have garnered over 4.5 million views. PsychMechanics has been featured in Forbes, Business Insider, Reader’s Digest, and Entrepreneur. Feel free to contact me if you have a query.