Trauma bonding happens when there’s a cycle of abuse going on in a relationship. Sometimes the other person is abusive towards you, and at other times, they’re good to you.
This creates an intermittent reinforcement pattern that hooks you to the relationship. You know there’s something wrong with the relationship, but you can’t leave because you’re waiting for the next high.
Trauma bonds can form in all kinds of relationships.
It can be hard to tell whether one is in a trauma bond or a normal relationship. This is because many of the things that occur in trauma bonds can also occur in normal relationships.
I’ve tried to include as many items as possible that apply specifically to trauma bonds in this test. So, getting a high score on this quiz makes it very likely that you’re in a trauma bond.
Taking the trauma bonding test
This test consists of 20 items on a 5-point scale ranging from Strongly agree to Strongly disagree. If you suspect you’ve trauma bonded with someone, keep them in mind and answer each item based on your entire relationship, not just recent events.
The results are only shown to you and not stored in our database.