Avoidants are people who tend to avoid other people. The avoidant attachment style usually stems from early childhood interactions with one’s primary caregivers. While avoidants struggle with relationships, those with Avoidant Personality Disorder (APD) experience significant dysfunction and distress. Traits of APD include: High-functioning APD Usually, personality disorders and mental health conditions create dysfunction and …
Having lost your inner child means being disconnected from your childlike qualities, such as: Why do people lose touch with their inner child? Childhood trauma is a big reason. When children aren’t loved and cared for in the way they expect, they suppress their authentic desires and feelings. They’re given the message that they aren’t …
When I first heard about love languages I was very intrigued. It made so much intuitive sense– this concept that people have different ways of showing and receiving love. “Love language” has now become a household term. While people describe any random thing as their love language these days, the original book on the topic …
Overstimulation, or sensory overload, is when the sensory information you receive from one or more of your senses exceeds the information processing capacity of your brain. Our brains have a limited capacity to process sensory information. Processing sensory information consumes mental energy and bandwidth. The brain does what it can to conserve energy. It’s designed …
Have you ever wondered why the same situation affects different people differently? For instance, you may be able to handle rejection well, but your friend gets depressed and loses sleep over it. While humans have many genetically programmed universal behaviors, it’s not just our genes that program us. The environment in which we’re raised also …
If you’re in a relationship with an anxiously attached partner, you’re probably overwhelmed by them. You love them, but at times, you feel confused by their behaviors. Someone with an anxious attachment, also called the Anxious Preoccupied (AP) attachment style, strongly needs love and connection. All humans need love and connection, but for APs, this …
Most people know what ‘introvert’ and ‘extrovert’ means. Some know what ambivert means, but very few people have encountered the term ‘omnivert’. Both ‘omnivert’ and ‘ambivert’ have the Latin root vertere in them, which means ‘to turn’; ambi means ‘both’, and omni means ‘all’. So, ambiverts literally turn both ways. They have both introverted and …
When faced with a life-threatening situation, an organism generates the following trauma responses: In certain traumatic situations, fight and flight are not the appropriate responses. Neither is freeze. These are the situations where the organism will display a fawn response. The fawn response to trauma is when someone behaves submissively towards an aggressor, communicating: “I’m …
The following main traits characterize psychopathy: Selfishness and power-hungriness are the predominant traits of psychopaths.1 They do what they want without any regard for the consequences of their actions. Not all psychopaths are violent, but because they don’t feel the pain of others, they’re likely to be.2 You can think of psychopathy as being on …
An avoidant attachment style person’s survival or self-protection need overpowers their need for love and connection. This makes it seem like they don’t want relationships at all. But they do because they’re humans, after all. It’s just that there’s a more potent opposing force preventing them from meeting their connection needs. They fear opening up …