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The psychology behind Stockholm Syndrome

Stockholm Syndrome is the name given to an intriguing psychological phenomenon where hostages develop positive feelings for their captors during captivity. It sounds confusing because common sense says that we should hate those who forcibly capture us and threaten us with violence.

People experiencing Stockholm Syndrome not only like their captors, but they also tend to empathize with them, refuse to testify against them in court, and, in some cases, even raise funds for their legal defence!

Stockholm Syndrome

Origins of Stockholm Syndrome

The term Stockholm Syndrome was first used after four people were taken hostage in a bank in Stockholm, Sweden in 1973. Within a few days, the victims developed positive feelings for their captors and urged the police not to take action. 

They said they felt safer with their captors and believed their chances of survival would be greater if they were left alone with their captors without the authorities intervening.

Later, when the police did finally intervene and release them, the hostages defended their captors and refused to testify against them in court.

While the term Stockholm Syndrome was originally used in the context of this hostage situation, its use has extended to situations like kidnappings and abuse because the victims in these situations sometimes show similar patterns of behaviour.

Stockholm Syndrome as a stress response

There's no doubt that being forcibly captured or abused is a stressful experience that causes intense fear in people. We humans have a number of strategies to deal with such potentially life-threatening situations.

First, there’s the obvious fight-or-flight response: Fight them or run away from them and save your life. However, there are situations where none of these survival strategies can be implemented. The captor is too powerful and has chained you, for instance. But survival is of utmost importance and therefore, we’ve got more tricks up our sleeve. 

One such trick is the freeze response, where the victim stays still so as to minimize resistance and discourage the aggressor from engaging in violence. Another response is the fright response where the victim plays dead, forcing the aggressor to overlook them (see Why people faint).

Stockholm Syndrome belongs to these categories of responses designed to increase the chances of survival in life-threatening or extremely fearful situations such as kidnapping and abuse.

How is it supposed to work?

For one, the captors and abusers often demand compliance from their victims and compliance is more likely when you like someone. If the victims don’t comply, their chances of ending up dead increase.

So Stockholm Syndrome is a stress response and a defence mechanism that the human mind uses to make the victims more compliant to the demands of their captors.1

Psychology behind Stockholm Syndrome

The Ben Franklin effect may be, in part, responsible for Stockholm Syndrome. The effect states that we tend to like those whom we help, even if they're complete strangers. The mind rationalizes helping the stranger as “I helped them, I must like them”.

The key difference in Stockholm Syndrome, of course, is that the victims are forced to comply and yet positive feelings for the aggressors develop. The mind’s like, “I am complying with them, I must like them”.

It works both ways. Liking them makes you want to comply with them and complying with them forces you to like them.

There are other important forces at play. 

Typically, the captor will threaten the victim with dire consequences. They’ll threaten them with violence or death. The victim is instantly made powerless and helpless. They start thinking of their imminent death. They’ve lost everything. They’re at the end of their rope.

In this scenario, any small act of kindness or mercy by the captor is exaggerated by the victim’s mind. Moments ago, they were threatening them with death and now they’re being merciful. This contrast effect magnifies the small acts of kindness by the captors in the victim’s mind. 

The result is that the victim is overly grateful to the captor for being kind, feeding them, letting them live and not killing them.

The relief experienced due to the knowledge that the captor hasn’t killed them and is capable of mercy is enormous for the victim. So much so, that the victim slips into denial with regards to what’s actually happened to them. They forget how they were forcibly captured and become laser-focused on the good side of their captor. They desperately want to believe that their captor is good.

“They haven’t done a thing to us. They’re not that bad after all.”

This again is an effective survival strategy of the mind because if the victims somehow project this belief that their captors are good human beings onto the captors, the captors are less likely to kill.

Being forcibly captured is humiliating and so the victims don’t want to face what’s happened to them. They ask their captors why they were captured, hoping to look for reasons that justify the capture- reasons that convince them that the captors are not inherently evil but were forced to take the step due to their own needs and causes. 

Consequently, the victims empathize and identify with the captors’ causes.

Another thing that the victims do is that they project their victim status onto their captors. This strokes their ego and takes their mind off from their own troubles as they focus on how their captors are indeed the real victims who need to do what they’re doing. "Society has been unjust to them" and bla bla.

Through all of this, the victims come to form a bond with their captors.

Evolutionary roots of Stockholm Syndrome

Stockholm Syndrome is an evolved response that promotes survival in a potentially life-threatening situation. A form of Stockholm Syndrome is also observed in chimpanzees where the victims of abuse act submissive and appease their abusers.2

Studies show that women are more prone to developing Stockholm Syndrome.3

There are various angles from which this can be understood. First, women are more prosocial than men which makes them likely to look for the good in other people. Second, women are generally more empathetic than men. Third, women are attracted to dominance and the captor is automatically placed in a dominant position in the capture-captured interaction.

There's a reason countless movies have been made over the theme of women falling in love with their male kidnappers.

In prehistoric times, women of neighbouring tribes were frequently captured and incorporated into the captors' own tribe. This is probably why capturing women in wars has been common throughout history (see Why humans go to war).

Even today, wife-kidnapping occurs in some cultures and is even seen as acceptable behaviour in these cultures. The groom-to-be will plan a kidnap with his male buddies and the kidnapped woman is forced to get married. Some even believe that honeymooning is a relic of this tradition.  

Women who resisted capture increased the likelihood of getting killed. So in a life-threatening situation where resistance is unlikely to work, Stockholm Syndrome increased their chances of survival.

             When the perpetrator of the 1973 botched Stockholm robbery was asked about the incident, he gave a rather hilarious response that captures the essence of what's been discussed in this article:

“It’s all their (hostages) fault. They were too compliant and did everything I asked them to do. This made it hard to kill. There was nothing to do but get to know each other.”


1.  Adorjan, M., Christensen, T., Kelly, B., & Pawluch, D. (2012). Stockholm syndrome as vernacular resource. The Sociological Quarterly53(3), 454-474.

2. Cantor, C., & Price, J. (2007). Traumatic entrapment, appeasement and complex post-traumatic stress disorder: evolutionary perspectives of hostage reactions, domestic abuse and the Stockholm syndrome. Australian & New Zealand Journal of Psychiatry41(5), 377-384.

3. ├ůse, C. (2015). Crisis narratives and masculinist protection: Gendering the original Stockholm syndrome. International Feminist Journal of Politics17(4), 595-610.

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