Avoidants or those with an avoidant attachment style tend to avoid emotional closeness in relationships. They tend to value their independence more than their relationships. They have low love and connection needs. This doesn’t mean they don’t want connection at all. All human beings naturally want to connect and form close relationships. In the case …
Pleasing others is natural and normal human behavior. It’s how people add value to others they’re in a relationship with. Being aware of other people’s wants and needs and pleasing them by meeting those is conducive to healthy relationships. This is altruism, which is highly praised by society because it benefits society as a whole. …
In Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED), a person shows repeated outbursts of aggressive behavior that are disproportionate to the situation. While normal people show aggressive behaviors once in a while, those with IED show a frequent pattern of verbal and physical aggression. …
In attachment theory, the anxious and avoidant attachment styles are two insecure attachment styles. Those with these styles behave in insecure ways in romantic relationships, leading to friction or even dissolution. Before we delve into the anxious-avoidant relationship dynamics, let’s first understand the two attachment styles. To be specific, in this article, I’ll refer to …
The term ‘hoovering’ comes from the popular vacuum cleaning brand. In relationships, hoovering is the tendency of a toxic person to ‘suck in’ their victim back into the toxic relationship dynamic. While it can happen in any relationship, it’s common in established romantic relationships. Toxic and abusive relationships tend to have this cyclical pattern to …
Emotional maturity is the ability to acknowledge emotions in oneself and others. Of course, you can only recognize and validate the emotions of others if you acknowledge and validate your own emotions. In other words, only when you have a healthy relationship with your emotions can you respond healthily to others’ emotions. Emotional maturity has …
Avoidants are people who tend to avoid other people. The avoidant attachment style usually stems from early childhood interactions with one’s primary caregivers. While avoidants struggle with relationships, those with Avoidant Personality Disorder (APD) experience significant dysfunction and distress. Traits of APD include: High-functioning APD Usually, personality disorders and mental health conditions create dysfunction and …
The following main traits characterize psychopathy: Selfishness and power-hungriness are the predominant traits of psychopaths.1 They do what they want without any regard for the consequences of their actions. Not all psychopaths are violent, but because they don’t feel the pain of others, they’re likely to be.2 You can think of psychopathy as being on …
An avoidant attachment style person’s survival or self-protection need overpowers their need for love and connection. This makes it seem like they don’t want relationships at all. But they do because they’re humans, after all. It’s just that there’s a more potent opposing force preventing them from meeting their connection needs. They fear opening up …
A narcissist is someone who’s self-centered, lacks empathy, seeks validation, and has fantasies of power and success. We all have narcissistic traits to some extent, but someone with a full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder makes life difficult for themselves and those around them. At the root of narcissism is low self-esteem. A narcissist tries to overcompensate …