Emotionally immature parents (Quiz)

Take this comprehensive test to determine the primary type of emotional immaturity in your parents

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Emotional immaturity is acting in ways that show you can’t manage your emotions. We all experience emotions. They’re a double-edged sword. Sometimes, they have a good impact on our lives. Other times, they have negative consequences. Emotional maturity is knowing when your emotions can harm yourself and/or others.

Researchers have divided emotional immaturity in parents into different types.1Gibson, L. C. (2015). Adult children of emotionally immature parents: How to heal from distant, rejecting, or self-involved parents. New Harbinger Publications. While there are traits that are common to all the types, there are also important differences. To more accurately show the kind of emotionally immature parenting your parents may have engaged in, I removed these commonalities from the quiz. These shared traits are:

  • Self-absorbed and lacking empathy
    Unable to meet children’s needs
  • Avoiding emotional expression and intimacy
  • Unaware of the impact on others
  • Lacking self-reflection
  • Dismissive and emotionally unavailable
  • Disregarding boundaries
  • Poor communication
  • Refusal to resolve conflicts
  • Emotionally reactive and impulsive2Dobrić, T., & Patrić, A. (2024). The hidden face of parenting: Emotional immaturity. SCIENCE International Journal3(1), 145-148.

4 Types of Emotionally Immature Parents

Emotional parentsPrimarily driven by emotions
Driven parentsOvery focused on achievement vs emotional conection
Passive parentsSubmissive and uninvolved
Rejecting parentsAvoid emotional intimacy

About the test

This test is from the perspective of an adult child of emotionally immature parents. Of course, children, being emotionally immature themselves, can’t understand that their parents are emotionally immature. While taking this test, it may help to revisit your childhood and put yourself in the shoes of your younger self.

If both your parents are the same, you can keep them both in mind and do the test. If they were different, it is recommended that you take the test twice, once for each parent. The test is completely anonymous and free to take. We don’t store or share your results.

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