What is the goal of aggression?

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Aggression is any behavior intended to harm others. The harm can be physical or psychological. Here, the key word is ‘intended’ because unintended harm is not aggression. For instance, accidental harm like hitting someone with your car is not aggression. Punching someone definitely is. It gets blurry and controversial when we talk about the different …

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Why age gap relationships don’t work

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People usually prefer romantic partners in the same age range as them. It makes sense because we’re more exposed to people in our age range through school, university, and jobs. People similar in age tend to have similar mate values, i.e., how valuable they’re in the dating marketplace. While most people would love to pair …

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Why do women play games?

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While both men and women play games in relationships, women seem to get called out more on their games than men do. Most men are pretty straightforward when it comes to relationships and expect women to be the same. So, when they see women playing games, they get pissed. They find it hard to wrap …

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Do exes come back? What do the stats say?

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Relationships are an enormous time and energy investment. It’s easy to have a crush on someone, but if you want a relationship with them, numerous factors come into play. It becomes an important decision and you have to weigh many factors. When a relationship ends, it’s a huge loss, especially if the relationship was good. …

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Why rebound relationships fail (Or do they?)

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A rebound relationship is a relationship that a person enters into soon after the end of a serious, prior relationship. The word ‘rebound’ conjures up scenes of an object (such as a rubber ball) bouncing off quickly from wall to wall. Similarly, a person who enters a rebound relationship- the rebounder- gives the impression that …

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Why men pull away when things get serious

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New relationships typically go through this ‘honeymoon phase’ where both partners are on a high and enjoy each other’s company. After this phase, either the relationship moves forward and solidifies, or one partner pulls away. I suspect the latter is more common than the former. But why does it happen? Though both men and women …

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Toxic family dynamics: 10 Signs to look for

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A toxic family is defined as one where there’s a consistent pattern of family members exhibiting harmful behaviors toward other members. While conflict is a normal part of a family dynamic, a toxic family handles conflict in ways that are damaging to one or more members. In a toxic family, there’s a constant pattern of …

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How to respond to an ultimatum in a relationship

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An ultimatum is a demand for behavioral change accompanied by a threat. Also called Games of Chicken, ultimatums are often “Do this, or else…” type of statements that pressure a person to do something they don’t want to do. In relationships, those who feel their needs aren’t being met issue ultimatums. Issuing an ultimatum is …

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Why is true love rare, unconditional, & lasting

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When someone goes through a breakup, it’s common for others to say: “He probably wasn’t the one for you, anyway.”“She didn’t really love you.”“It wasn’t true love, just infatuation. True love is rare.” All this doesn’t just come from others. A person’s own mind can do this too. Sam was in a relationship with Sara …

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What causes nationalism? (Ultimate guide)

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To understand what causes nationalism and explore in-depth the psychology of nationalists, we have to start with understanding what the term nationalism means. Nationalism is the belief that the nation to which one belongs is superior to other nations. It is characterized by viewing one’s nation favorably and showing exaggerated love and support for one’s …

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